Your June Transit Tonic - The Desire Edition
Transit Dates & Gates
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June 1- 7 | Gate 35 - The Gate of Change
Center: Throat
Channel 35-36 The Channel of Transitoriness / Experience
Theme: Desire, Experience, and the Courage to Change
I just got off a call with my VA in a much better mood. We started off talking about biz stuff. Things like this blog and Transit Tonic I am editing - like right this minute - and the fact that well, maybe, it coulda, shoulda - been finished a week ago. (If there was a coyness emoji, I’d insert it here.)
It wasn’t that I did nothing. And just said - oh, eff that… It was that I took a little side trip. I spent a week writing a murder mystery - for fun - for pleasure. So, our call, as it so often does, veered into the why’s of life - with a whole lot of color and lane shifting.
She shared photos of camping in a Safari retreat with real lions roaring through the night and rhinos that walked right up for a close up photo as if on cue. I shared photos of a fun, funky little bar I just discovered called “The House of Found Objects.”
Check it out !
And that darling one, that, is what Desire is all about. And that is the energy we kick off today with.
The one that taps its fingers on the table saying, “Yeah, yeah, yeah.. That’s what you say you are going to do - and – What is it really, that you want? How many times do you tell yourself you should be grateful for what you have when the truth is that you still want more?
June begins in the Throat Center energetically asking you questions.
Gate 35 Change.
Gate 45 -Gathering.
Gate 12 - Caution.
Three energies pushing toward expression.
And it isn’t coincidental that they arrive on the heels of a rare Blue Moon — a moon traditionally associated with reflection, release, and renewal.
So before we rush ahead, I want to know. What did YOU do this weekend that felt like fun?
Nothing?
Okay, if we were sitting together right now,
I’d be like, sooooooo… tell me more.
Tell me this: What story are you carrying about desire?
Because many of us were taught that desire is dangerous. That it represents something we should avoid. That it's a selfish, primal, energy that needs to be reigned in and controlled.
Maybe it is all those things.
It is also a guide that points us toward our gifts.
We’ve just misread the signs and confused desire and wanting with immediate gratification - drinking, eating, shopping - to silence the voice of want.
And this is the energy of Gate 35, The Gate of Change.
It isn’t telling us to burn down our lives, stop working, ignore responsibility, dump our partners, wear a bikini, hook up with a hot younger guy and drive a red car off into the sunset.
(Unless of course that is your calling.. smile)
In its shadow form it creates a hunger for what we don’t have or believe we don’t have.
In its gift it shows us that adventure lies in how we choose to experience desire. Which can be as simple as stopping when you are stressed, walking outside and noticing the miracles all around you. It could mean putting on your favorite music and allowing yourself to sing or dance. It could mean a handwritten card to someone you haven’t spoken to in a while.
It is about the courage to shake up our daily routine and sit with desire instead of automatically reaching for a glass of wine or the TV remote.
In its highest form this energy is about boundlessness. Except we can't take a shortcut to boundlessness without walking through hunger. If we deny desire, it’s like starting on a cross country trip without a map, or GPS.
The invitation of this energy: Shift your routine. Gate 35 is saying that experience itself is the point.
Contemplation Questions
What story am I carrying about desire?
What have I convinced myself I no longer want?
When was the last time I did something simply because it brought me joy?
What hunger keeps returning no matter how many times I ignore it?
Where have I mistaken immediate gratification for genuine desire?
What am I reaching for when I reach for food, alcohol, shopping, scrolling, or distraction?
What part of my life feels stale, predictable, or overdue for a new experience?
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June 7–13 | Gate 45 - The Gate of the Gatherer
Center: Throat
Channel: 45-21 Channel of Money / Surrender
Theme: Leadership, Stewardship, and Shared Prosperity
If Gate 35 challenges us to acknowledge our desires, Gate 45 says - “okay, now that you know - what are you going to do with them?”
This is one of my personal chart gates, and every year when this energy arrives, I am humbly reminded about the difference between influence and control.
Gate 45 is often called the Gate of the King or Queen. It holds the energy of leadership and sovereignty. It calls us into stewardship, to bring in all the resources we can - and yes - make all the money we can make. Not for ourselves - for the betterment of the community.
This is where I’d like to pause and address the poltergeists that inhabit our minds around money. Because here is the truth.
This energy is calling us to:
1. Acknowledge our desires, see where that hunger points
2. Bring those gifts it uncovers to the table.
3. Monetize them if possible.
We aren’t gathering solely for ourselves. We are connecting resources around a shared vision.
That vision is that there is enough for everyone, for all. This energy wants everyone fed. Everyone safe. Everyone cared for.
It isn’t about selfishness.
Nor is it about carrying everyone else.
When we start to feel that the world is on our shoulders, and we are all alone, we are sacrificing our best for a noble idea. I mean it isn’t true, but it sounds noble as hell. that we are being selfless and caring for others.
True selflessness is sainthood.
The moment we start evaluating the actions of others - we’ve stepped out of sainthood into the hood of victim.
And to protect ourselves we begin stories like - well that isn’t fair.
They have more_____ whatever than I do.
Could be. And if that’s true, let it go. Stop trying to control “them” and focus on you.
Even the urge to bring in those you love, protect them from mistakes, save them from learning, is a form of control.
To guide them toward the choice you are convinced would serve them best, rather than show them the way, will only exhaust you and cause them to pull away.
That’s the shadow of Gate 45 - dominance. Not coercive control - an inability to listen. The moment we mistake responsibility for authority.
People are not projects.
So you may find yourself asking a difficult question this week: How many times will I repeat the same pattern before I let it go?
You may see the train wreck coming. The wisdom of Gate 45 is knowing that seeing something does not make it yours to fix.
True leadership - in families, businesses, countries - creates a space people willingly enter.
It builds something worth gathering around.
So… find your desire again and …
Build the thing – the vision – the life – and they will find you.
Contemplation Questions:
Where am I confusing responsibility with authority?
Who in my life have I been trying to guide, manage, protect, rescue, or convince?
What am I carrying that was never mine to carry?
Where have I mistaken love for control?
What outcome am I still trying to force?
What would become possible if I trusted others to learn their own lessons?
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June 13 - 19 | Gate 12 - The Gate of Caution
Center: Throat
Channel: 12- 22 The Channel of Openness
Theme: Love, Vulnerability, and the Courage to Be Seen
Diving into the idea of Desire, The Gate of Caution might feel like someone putting a hand up. Saying okay, you’ve identified your desires (Gate 35) You’ve been called to be brave and show up with all your gifts for the good of all (Gate 45)
And now - you’re being told to be “cautious”.. How does that work with desire?
Hang on - I too had quite a ride diving into this Gate. I have it defined and hanging, which means that without Gate 22 to balance it, the energy this gate brings can feel intense. I will be unconsciously pulled toward the balance to avoid living in the shadow of this Gate which is Vanity.
Yep. Chew on that one for a while. Not too much fun is it?
Let me support you here. This energy of this Gate, when broken down into its most fundamental, is calling us to love. It’s asking us to step out of our own reflection and love. I disagree with Richard Rudd’s interpretation that we move out of vanity when we see our connection to others and learn to love them first. He believes that only by doing that can we love ourselves.
I believe we can love others fiercely, even unto death,
but the thing that keeps us from letting love in completely is not loving ourselves.
Self love requires courage because it can’t be built on ego or vanity. It is a love that asks us to go deep and see our flaws and all the things we hide from others. That is the caution I believe we are called to.
The realization that we are going to make a hell of a mess here. That we will not get it right. That we get to learn humility and make peace with our imperfections.
It is not caution as fear.
It is not caution as avoidance.
But caution as the awareness that once something is spoken, felt, admitted, risked, trusted, loved—it cannot be neatly returned to the sheF.
GATE 12 - the gate of caution
Love is messy and unpredictable and we will see both the best and worst of ourselves if we choose to let it in.
Questions for Contemplation
What part of myself am I still hiding from me?
Where have I mistaken caution for protection when it was really avoidance?
What would become possible if I made peace with my imperfections instead of trying to overcome them?
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June 19 - 24 | Gate 15 - The Gate of Extremes
Center: G Center (Identity Center)
Channel Connection: Gate 15 ↔ Gate 5 (The Channel of Rhythm)
Theme: Finding Grace in Life’s Natural Rhythms
It was moving time.
Despite two months of packing and giving things away, 4,500 square feet of living space, an unfinished 2,500 square foot basement, a walk-up attic, and 15 years of life allows us to accumulate a whole lot of forgotten, or sometimes useless, stuff. I was staring into an abyss of neglected decisions in which I had, like Scarlett O’Hara, deluded myself by saying, “I’ll think about it tomorrow.”
At one point, while helping me unload the attic, my sister cooed, “How precious,” over a box of my son’s three-year-old artwork. When I handed her the fifth box in that sequence, however, she raised an eyebrow.
“Prolific little sucker, wasn’t he?”
We both burst out laughing.
But she wasn’t wrong.
Somewhere between preserving memories and storing five boxes of finger paintings, I had drifted into an extreme.
And that is the gift of Gate 15.
Most descriptions of this gate focus on extremes, which sounds dramatic until you realize how quietly extremes enter our lives. They rarely arrive all at once. They accumulate one decision at a time.
One box becomes five.
One responsibility becomes all of them.
One compromise becomes a pattern.
One delayed conversation becomes years of silence.
One dream deferred becomes a life we no longer recognize.
The shadow of this gate is dullness. Not because life lacks meaning, but because we lose ourselves in routines, habits, obligations, and excesses that no longer fit who we are becoming.
At 2 a.m., exhausted and out of options, I gave the house my best thirty-minute “professional cleaning.” The new owners were arriving at eight.
My final goodbye?
A note informing me that I had not, in fact, done such a great job cleaning.
Honestly, fair.
But somewhere in the middle of the exhaustion, I realized the move was never really about the house.
It was about finally making decisions I had postponed for years.
Gate 15 reminds us that life moves in seasons. There are seasons of gathering and seasons of release. Seasons of abundance and seasons of simplicity. Seasons when we are expanding and seasons when we are being asked to let go.
The challenge comes when we cling to one season long after it has passed.
For those with this gate defined, you may feel the tension between honoring your unique rhythm and adapting to the rhythms of everyone around you.
For those with it undefined, you may find yourself amplifying the extremes of others or wondering why your life suddenly feels out of balance.
The gift of Gate 15 is humanity. The recognition that we are all beautifully imperfect creatures trying to find our place within the larger rhythm of life.
Its highest expression is magnetism. Not because it is perfect, but because it embraces life exactly as it is.
Contemplation Questions:
What have you outgrown that you are still carrying?
Where have small compromises accumulated into something larger?
What season of life are you trying to hold onto?
What would become possible if you trusted the next rhythm instead of clinging to the last one?
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June 24 - 30 | Gate 52 - The Gate of Stillness
Center: Root
Channel 52- 9 the Channel of Concentration
Theme: The Power of Stopping
December, Winter Park, Florida. A beautiful little town.
If you look at the photographs taken that night everything was textbook perfect. The restaurant. The outdoor fireplace. The roses. The champagne. The proposal. Inside, however, I felt like a deer in headlights. Every instinct in me was screaming. Run. No seriously. Run.
The strange thing about life is that sometimes we don’t arrive at difficult moments suddenly. We arrive one decision at a time.
Looking back now, there were countless moments where I could have stopped and asked myself a very simple question:
What am I doing?
Instead, I allowed external circumstances to sweep me along like a slow-moving river that only picks up speed right before it goes over the falls.
Did I stop and examine what was happening? Not nearly enough. Instead, I immersed myself in wedding details, flowers, colors, guest lists, and plans.
The short version: there were financial red flags, a wedding dress that didn’t fit, a house I wasn’t sure I wanted, and a growing list of moments where my intuition was trying to get my attention.
The long version? Well, that story deserves a blog of its own. And if you’ve ever ignored what your body was telling you because momentum had already taken over, I think you’ll recognize yourself in it
(catch it here)
What matters here is that despite all of it, I kept moving. And that is what makes Gate 52 so powerful.
Stillness is often mistaken for doing nothing. It isn’t. Stillness is the willingness to stop long enough to assess where you are, where you are headed, and whether the life you are building is actually the life you want.
Gate 52 sits in the Root Center, the center of pressure.
It asks us to recognize that sometimes movement is simply movement.
Or avoidance.
The shadow of this gate is stress. To keep saying yes because the train is already in motion.
The gift is restraint. The ability to pause before committing yourself to the next step. The ability to sit with discomfort long enough to hear your own wisdom.
Its highest expression is stillness. Not passivity. Not avoidance. Not hiding. Stillness. The kind that allows you to step off the train before you discover you’ve been traveling in the wrong direction.
The question Gate 52 asks is simple: Will you stop long enough to listen?
This week the invitation is to Pause. Take a breath. Step back from the momentum. And ask yourself whether the direction you’re headed still feels true.
Contemplation Questions:
Where in your life are you moving faster than your wisdom?
What decision is asking for more time and attention?
What are you afraid might happen if you stop?
What would become possible if you trusted stillness as much as action?
“Be still, and know that I am God.” — Psalm 46:10
